22 yrs in the LS, married 27, ask me anything you wish someone had answered for you when you started

mods feel free to remove if this isnt the format, im honestly just procrastinating folding laundry on a sunday night and figured id throw the doors open. f55 he 58, married 27, in the LS since 2004 — yes, before the apps, when it was yahoo groups and a single sketchy website with a star wars name. we've done basically every version. clubs, house parties, regulars, MFM, FFM, group, breaks, vacations, lifestyle resorts, one disastrous quad attempt around yr 11, a 3 yr break from 2015-2018 when his mom was dying, and now a slower steady pace of mostly travel + a small circle of 4 vet couples. i was reading some threads on here from newer couples and a lot of the questions had me thinking "i wish someone had told us X". and there are also questions us long timers DONT see anymore bc we've forgotten what it's like to not know. so im opening it up. ask anything. how we've stayed married, what almost broke us (a real list), how we handled jealousy at 32 vs 52 (different beasts), what aging in the lifestyle is actually like, what the scene was like in 2005 vs now, when we knew a regular couple wasn't gonna work, the talk about retiring from the LS, sex frequency in a 27 yr marriage where lifestyle is also a thing, how our kids never found out (we still get questions about that one), whether we'd do it all over again, any of it. im here for a couple hours. only thing i wont answer is anything that gives away identifying info, including the city and the resort we go to most. learned that the hard way in like 2012. go