5 years in... would i do it again? yes. heres why

someone asked me this at a vanilla bbq in melbourne last weekend (they didnt know they were asking it lol, they were talking about another couple's open marriage). and i had a proper think about it on the drive home. five years. some absolute peaks, two or three weeks of pure misery, one big rupture-and-repair, dozens of dinners that turned into friendships. i wouldnt unpick any of it. not because it was all great but because it built who we are now. we're calmer, hornier, more truthful, better parents weirdly, more generous to each other. would i do it again? id do it sooner...