adoption process starting next month and we lifestyle. ngl I'm scared Starting the adoption home study in three weeks. Manchester. We've been waiting two years to get to this point. We lifestyle. Have for five. [F38] me, [F37] her, married since 2021, no kids yet, that's the whole point of the adoption. The social worker is going to do interviews. Visit the house. Look in cupboards apparently. Talk to references. I've scrubbed our laptop search history. Hidden the box in the wardrobe. Asked our two closest friends who know to please not mention it in any reference call. One of them laughed and said 'obviously' and the other one went quiet for too long. But I keep thinking. We're lying. The whole adoption process is supposed to be honest disclosure. We're going to be parents and we're starting with a lie. My wife says everyone has a private life and we don't bring it home. Fine. True. But also we have a WhatsApp group with eight other couples and a shared calendar. Has anyone done a home study while lifestyle. Did you pause. Did you stop. Did you just hide it and never tell. The kettle just clicked off and I forgot why I boiled it.