aftercare in a club playroom feels different than at a private and we cant figure out what the etiquette is supposed to look like

this is one of those things nobody mentions and then you're standing there afterwards with no clue what the move is. so context, we've done foursomes a bunch but mostly at private homes (theirs, ours, sometimes a rental). aftercare in those settings is straightforward — you cuddle in the room for a while, you maybe make tea, somebody puts on a soft playlist, ppl decompress and chat and slowly drift to clothes and goodbyes. its lovely. its grounding. its part of the whole thing for us. then last month we played w a couple in an open playroom at our club. and the second we finished, it was like... awkward fast. ppl around us. limited space. no kettle obviously lol. the other couple was friendly but they very quickly went "well that was great, thanks!" and walked off to their next thing. we sat there for like 4 min just kinda trying to come down in a room full of other ppl, and then we ended up in the lounge w no real closure on what we just shared. f37 he 40, married 9 yrs, lifestyle 5. is club aftercare just... not a thing? are we supposed to follow them out and try to make it happen at the bar w clothes back on? do you exchange numbers BEFORE you play so theres a way to do aftercare async via text the next day? we just felt like the connection got cut off mid-sentence and i dont know if that's normal or if we did smth wrong. also btw if ppl have language for asking "hey can we go grab a water together for a min" without making it a big thing, please share. trying to give the version we want without overloading the other couple