aftercare was zero and i feel like a tossed-away thing

wellington couple, very polished, very experienced. amazing sex genuinely. then the second i finished he got up, took a shower, came back fully dressed and started making small talk like wed just done a quiz. she went to make tea. tea. my husband was in the next room with her. no one held me, no one even pulled the duvet up over me. i lay there feeling like a tupperware container after dinner. drove home and cried in the passenger seat. husband was confused because the sex part was great, kept saying "but the sex was great" and not understanding. how do you explain to a man who came inside someone half an hour ago that you need to be held and you werent. 32 hes 35 swinging just under a year