Aging out — at what point does the room stop wanting you, give me the honest answer

feel a bit silly asking this but it's been on my mind for months and i havent been able to ask anyone irl. me 54, dw 52, in the lifestyle 11 yrs. our match rates online have dropped this year compared to last year compared to the year before. its not a cliff its a slow decline. weve also noticed at our regular club the average age of the room has gotten younger and weve gone from "in the middle of the demographic" to clearly in the older half. i dont want a pep talk about how attraction is timeless and confidence is what matters. i know all that and most of it is true. what im asking is harder and i want honest answers. is there actually a point in the lifestyle where the room mostly stops wanting you. when does it start. is it a number or is it physical condition or is it social capital (knowing the right ppl, being known) or some mix. and if it happens, what does the transition look like — do ppl gracefully shift to playing only with their existing circle, do they pivot to hosting, do they actually retire, do they find a smaller older community. im not having a crisis. were still playing regularly, just with mostly the same handful of couples not new ones. dw said the other day "weve become a known couple, not a sought couple" and that landed in a way i havent been able to shake. like maybe we're entering a different phase and i want to understand the map before we're lost in it. ppl in their 60s and 70s who are still active — what was your honest experience of the transition. ppl in their 40s who watched their older friends go through it — what did you see. and dont sugarcoat it bc i am specifically asking for the real thing.