am i the bad one for dragging us into the lifestyle ok so... i'm the one who pushed for this. found the club, made the profile, picked the first couple we met. my husband says he's into it but every time i watch his face on the drive home im not sure. been at it 18 months now and he's never once said lets do it again without me bringing it up first. brighton couple in our 40s. am i the villain in this story or is he just a slow burner... starting to feel like the bad guy here lol