bipolar 2 and my hypomania always makes me want to play more, my husband has started gatekeeping and i hate it but he might be right

this is the most vulnerable thing ive posted anywhere so going anon obvs. im 35, dh is 37, married 9 yrs, in the LS 3 yrs, leeds. diagnosed bipolar 2 about 6 yrs ago. mostly stable. on lamotrigine. see my psych every 8 weeks. ive been "well" in the diagnostic sense for ages. but i still get hypomanic stretches once or twice a yr, usually 5-10 days, and they're not the disaster manic episodes ppl think of — i just sleep less, have ideas, feel sparkly, want EVERYTHING more. more food more drinks more sex more new ppl more out more big plans. and obvs in the LS that translates to wanting to play more. like, way more. my appetite in a hypomanic stretch is genuinely 4-5x my baseline. ill be the one suggesting another club this weekend, hitting up couples we havent talked to in months, planning a weekend away with another couple, suggesting we go to an event 200 miles away. and the sex itself when it happens during one of these stretches is incandescent. like the best of my life. here's the problem. my husband has slowly become my real-time mood monitor. about 6 months ago he started gently slowing things down when he can tell im hypomanic. "lets not commit to that weekend yet". "lets see how u feel about that meet in a few days before we say yes". "ive noticed u havent slept much this wk lets do a quiet one". and i KNOW from the outside this is good and loving and protective. my psych literally told us this should be part of our routine. but inside it makes me feel patronised and corralled and like im not allowed to want what i want without it being pathologised. and the worst bit is. half the time he's right. last yr i hypomania-greenlit a thing with a couple that on reflection i wasnt actually that into and i spent the day after embarrassed. and once on a stretch i sent flirty messages to someone i wouldnt have if id slept enough that wk. so the question. how do other ppl with bipolar (or partners of) handle this. how do u balance "let her live, dont infantilise her" with "the hypomania is making decisions she wouldnt make rested". the gatekeeping is partly necessary but it's also slowly making me resent him a little and thats not safe for the marriage either. theres got to be a better protocol than this