black women in the lifestyle... why so few of us, where is everyone

this isnt a complaint exactly its more an honest question. im a black woman in my 30s, partnered, been in the scene a few yrs in the uk. and at every event most of the women are white. occasionally a mixed crowd but black women specifically are rare. i know we exist obviously, i ve met some incredible ones. but where is everyone. is it the cultural baggage. is it the way black women get treated in these spaces that puts ppl off. is it just that we are quieter about it. genuinely curious n would love to hear from other black women on this if u re comfortable...