counsellor says we have to stop the lifestyle to fix the marriage... anyone ignored that advice

so my wife and i (early 40s, sydney) finally caved and went to a couples counsellor about 6 months of constant low level bickering. told her about the lifestyle in session 2 (proud of us tbh) and she basically said look you cant work on intimacy while youre adding more people to the dynamic, you need to pause for at least 6 months. and i get the logic? but also... the LS isnt the problem. the problem is hes been working 70 hr weeks and i feel invisible. the LS is actually the only time he properly sees me. has anyone been told this and just... not listened. or listened and regretted it. she seems good otherwise just feels like shes treating a symptom that isnt actually a symptom