couples who blog publicly about their LS life and then got doxxed, how worried should the rest of us be

this has been on my mind for weeks. theres been a few cases this yr i know of where a couple was running a fairly anonymous lifestyle blog or substack, no faces, no real names, the usual precautions, and they got doxxed anyway, sometimes by ex-partners and sometimes by random readers who pieced things together from background details. ive considered starting something similar myself (early forties, my husband's mid forties, weve had a lot of stories worth telling) and now im sitting with it. how much risk is there really for couples writing semi-publicly about this lifestyle. is the answer "fine if u never post a single photo, never name a single city, never mention ur kid's school district" or is the answer "the only safe blog is one that doesnt exist". asking because the people i know who write publicly all say "its fine its fine" right up until its not. would love to hear from anyone who has been doxxed or nearly was, what was the actual leak point. and from anyone who blogs and HASNT been outed, what are the disciplines that have kept u safe