cuckquean (gender-swapped) here... where are the other cuckqueens, we feel invisible

F37 / M40, we have a cuckquean dynamic, which for those who dont know is essentially the gender-flipped version of cuckolding. im the wife and i enjoy watching/knowing about my husband being with other women, he is the "stag" and i am the cuckquean. weve been doing this for about 2 years. and i honestly feel invisible in this community sometimes. like 95% of the content online is hotwife (wife goes out, husband stays home or watches), and the tiny fraction thats gender-swapped feels like an afterthought. when i look up cuckquean stuff i find a) reddit subs with mostly humiliation-focused stuff, b) a lot of porn that doesnt match our actual experience, c) almost nothing about the emotional or relational dynamics of cuckquean couples. our actual experience is very tender. i love seeing him desired by another woman. i love hearing about his dates. i love being the one he comes home to. i don't need humiliation, i don't need to be "replaced", i need to know he came home to me by choice not by default. are there other cuckquean couples here. how do you find single women who are into being "the other woman" in a wife-aware non-poly context (this is the unicorn search times ten). do you go to LS clubs and how does that work for our dynamic. is the language we use ("cuckquean" vs "vixen" vs just "open marriage") actually shaping who finds us. and is this community open to us bc honestly we have not felt very visible in LS spaces