divorced 11 months, new partner wants to bring me into his LS life and i cant tell if its too soon or just right

this is messy bc my head is messy. im 38, divorced last yr after a 12 yr marriage. ex wasnt LS, marriage ended for unrelated reasons (we just grew into different ppl, very civil, kids are fine). met a new partner about 5 months ago, he's 44, divorced 3 yrs himself, was in the LS with his ex for the last 4 yrs of his marriage and stayed in the scene as a single guy after the split. melbourne. we've gotten serious quick — moved some things into his place, meeting kids on both sides, the whole thing. he's been wonderful about the LS bit. hasnt pressured me. hasnt even pushed it. just told me very early "this is part of my life, i love it, i want u to know it's there, i dont expect anything from u, ill never make this a condition of us". which honestly made me lean IN more than if he'd been pushy. ive been curious. ive been turned on hearing him talk about it. weve had some "soft" conversations about what i might be open to one day. now he's been invited to a couples weekend in 3 months by friends of his. couples only. he wants to take me. he says no pressure and we can leave any time. he says we dont have to play. but i can tell he wants to share this part of his world with me. heres what i cant tell. is 11 months post divorce + 5 months into a new relationship a normal time to be considering this. my therapist (i have one, started before the divorce) is being deliberately neutral. shes not telling me dont, shes also not telling me go. she said "u should think about whether ur saying yes bc u want to or bc u want to keep him". which is the right question and im not sure of the answer. bc i DO want to keep him. and i AM curious. and those two things are tangled. when u just got out of a marriage that ended for reasons that included drifting apart, the idea of jumping into something this intense this fast is either really exciting or really stupid and i cant tell which. ppl who came into the LS post divorce — was there a "right" amount of time. is there a thing u wish u'd known. is "doing it bc he wants u to" automatic disqualification or is that just life