fetishising language in dms... how do u redirect without being the angry one

every single week i get at least one message that opens w something that makes my skin crawl. "exotic" "spicy" "always wanted to try a..." "my husband has a thing for..." etc. i am south asian, my husband is white, were based in dublin. i dont want to be the angry brown girl who shuts down every convo but also i dont want to just absorb it n smile. has anyone found a script that works. a way to redirect ppl without it turning into a fight or me feeling drained. i used to just block but i cant block the whole scene tbh...