first time dh wasnt in the room... the texts he sent me before during and after were everything

F34, dh M36, married 6 yrs. we did soft swap and same room only for the first year of being in the LS. last month i did my first ever stag night where he wasnt physically present at all. hotel night with a guy we'd been talking to for 4 months. what im posting about isnt the night itself tbh. its the texts dh sent me. he texted me a few times during the lead up, then went quiet during the actual play obviously, then sent me one specific text after that i havent stopped thinking about. before, while i was getting ready at home, he texted me from the gym "you look unreal tonight. proud of you for going. miss you already". innocent. lovely. during, while i was at dinner with the guy, he texted "have fun, dont text back unless something is wrong". which gave me permission to actually disappear into the night without managing him. and after, like an hour after, while i was getting dressed in the hotel bathroom, he texted "come home when youre ready. ill be up. i love you". thats it. no questions, no "how was it", no "tell me everything", just come home, im up, i love you. i cried in the bathroom reading that. is this what doing it right looks like. what did your partner text you that hit different. and for the men, how do you find that exact tone where youre supportive but not hovering and not asking for reassurance