going on holiday with vanilla friends who DONT know... the SECRET life we've been booked into a villa in portugal next month with 2 vanilla couples we've known forever. they have no idea we're in the LS. 7 days, shared villa, no privacy, and we've got an event the weekend after we get back that we havent figured out how to bring up. the constant code switching exhausts me. has anyone done a long holiday with vanillas who dont know? how do u not slip up after a few glasses of wine on the patio... feels like keeping a secret identity