has anyone built a "hall pass" anniversary tradition that actually works long term

F38 / M41, married 13 yrs, ls about 4 yrs total. we've been considering building a once-a-year tradition where each of us gets a "hall pass" night around our anniversary. like a designated solo lifestyle event on a specific weekend each year, separately from our normal play. the idea came up after a chat with another couple we're friendly with who do exactly this. she goes off in october, he goes off in march, theyve done it for 6 years and they swear by it. they say it gives them something to look forward to all year and protects the rest of the year from any "i want a solo night" pressure because its already scheduled. we love the concept but we also wonder if its an artificial structure thats just gonna create weird countdown anxiety. like "ohh the hall pass is in 7 weeks, time to find someone" energy. questions, has anyone built this tradition and stuck with it more than 2-3 years. do you each pick your own partner that year or is it coordinated. how do you handle the time around it (week before, week after). is there a debrief tradition or do you just go on with life. has it ever felt like a chore where you went out just to honor the tradition without really wanting to. and is it kept private from your social circle or is it discussed openly between you and them