he let me go further than i wanted... and smiled the whole time

still chewing on this a week later. we did our second mfm in manchester, fella was lovely, polite, asked before everything. but my husband kept nodding yes for me. i'd look at him for a brake and he'd just grin and say "she loves it babe". i didnt love it. by the end i was somewhere else in my head. on the drive home he was buzzing and i was crying behind my sunglasses. i dont think he meant harm but he was hearing his own fantasy not me. how do you have the conversation that goes "you sold me out and didnt notice"... without ending the marriage. im 34 hes 38. been in the scene maybe 18 months