how long did it ACTUALLY take you to find a regular bull... we are 8 months in and have one

F36 / M40, hotwife dynamic since last summer. we are on SLS, kasidie, the hw apps, the works. we've been chatting consistently the whole time. and after 8 months we have exactly one regular and 2 dudes we've met once each that didnt stick. i keep reading these forum posts where ppl say "we found our bull in a few weeks" and i call BS lol. or im just doing something wrong. ngl my standards arent crazy, im 36 reasonably attractive, dh is involved and chill in the messages, we're both on the apps with face pics (selectively shared), we've done 4 meet and greets, gone to one hotwife social in austin. and we still have a thin bench. the regular we have is amazing btw, hes 41, lives in the next state, comes to town once a month for work and we make a thing of it. but hes also the only one. if he moves jobs we're back to zero. so the real question, how long did your search ACTUALLY take from "we want this" to "we have a regular we trust and a backup or two". be honest. and how do ppl who claim "took 2 weeks" pull that off, are they doing something different or are they lying or are they accepting much lower standards than we are