i did not know my wife could be that confident context: my wife is the quieter half of us in vanilla life. softly spoken, deferential at work, the one who lets me order at restaurants. first proper full swap meet last month and watched her take charge with the other bloke in a way i didnt know was in her. not performance just... her, unleashed. afterwards in bed she said she'd been carrying that part of herself folded up for years bcs nowhere else asked it of her. ive been thinking about that ever since. how many parts of our partners are folded up waiting for the right room. anyone else have a moment like this...