i felt seen for the first time in years and it wasnt even sexual im 47 and after 3 kids and a thyroid issue and the general invisibility middle aged women feel... i kinda stopped expecting to be looked at. went to a private party with my husband, met a couple who chatted with me for 2 hrs at the bar before anything else, and the other woman asked me about my career and my hobbies and laughed at my jokes and made me feel like the most interesting person in the room. there was no sex that night. just being seen. drove home in tears in a good way. has anyone else had this... the lifestyle as a place where women like us get to feel visible again...