i think my partner cant say no to me and i hate that i like it

this ones uncomfortable. weve been in the ls 5 years. weve set up rules check ins veto power all of it. but ive started to notice... she never uses the veto. ever. and last week she said yes to a couple i could tell she wasnt that into. ive realised she defaults to my preferences in like 80% of decisions, ls and otherwise. the worst part is some quiet bit of me likes that. how do you sit with the fact youre the more powerful partner in your marriage