if one couple says no to a foursome in the playroom does that set the tone for the whole room or just for them and us

real scenario that happened recently and i still dont know if my read was right. ok so were in the open playroom at our club, theres a soft no fly zone w like 3 stations going. couple A invites us to join them at their station, vibe was great. but at the time of the invite there's couple B literally 6 ft away on the next mattress, also kinda in our orbit bc we'd chatted w them earlier at the bar. they hadnt invited us. and when couple A invited us, couple B kind of paused and looked over. my wife f35 said "lets go to a private cabana, more comfortable." couple A agreed. we left the room together. afterwards she told me her hesitation was bc couple B was right there and she didnt want them to feel like a) they were watching, or b) the playroom open scene was becoming a 6-person thing they didnt sign up for. me he 38 totally understood her instinct but it also got me thinking — in a shared playroom, if one couple has said no (by not inviting, by not being engaged), are we supposed to treat that no as if it covers the whole 6 ft radius around them? or is the playroom by definition a place where any couple is doing their thing and the others are doing theirs and the "no" only covers the couple itself? genuinely asking bc i think theres a real principle here that nobody actually explains. like... how much social space does a no occupy. is it just personal-bubble sized or does it extend to whatever they can see and hear

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