income gap in our marriage is showing up in the ls and i hate it

i earn about 3x what my wife does. its been fine for years in normal life. but in the ls its becoming a thing. i pay for everything, the hotels the club fees the dinners with other couples, and shes started making comments like i decide where we go because im paying. which... is not how i see it at all but i hear what shes saying. anyone navigated this... feels like the money is leaking into the bedroom and i dont know how to undo it