interracial couple... my partner got racial comments mid-play and i froze this happened a few weeks ago n im still processing. were a black-white couple, longtime in the scene, ldn area. we were w a couple we had met a few times before, all consented all fine. mid way through the bloke said something about my partner that was... racially loaded. not a slur exactly but the kind of thing that turned my stomach. she heard it. i heard it. and i froze. i didnt know what to do in the moment. we stopped shortly after, made an excuse, left. now i feel guilty i didnt say something in the moment. how do u handle this. is there a script. how do u not freeze...