is LS apart even LS anymore... identity question for the LDR crew okay slightly philosophical but bear with me. we got into LS as a couple, the whole point for us was doing it TOGETHER. now hes been working in johannesburg for 8 months and we both play apart with his blessing and mine. when i go to a meet in cardiff am i a swinger... or am i just sleeping with ppl while my husband is far away. like is what im doing still LS or is it functionally just an open arrangement during a separation. does the label matter. does it change anything about how i think about myself in the scene...