is the magic wand basically the great equaliser in a play room or am i romanticising one large vibrator

right so the more weve been in the LS (5 yrs, hes 42 im 39, sheffield mostly with the occasional run down to london) the more ive noticed that almost every long-term couple has a magic wand somewhere in their kit. and it does this funny thing where it sort of... rescues nights that werent quite working. like the dynamic where shes a bit nervous and hes a bit too keen and the meet has the wrong gear for an hour. and then someone (usually the more experienced lady in the room) just goes "shall i get the wand" and the room laughs, the tension drops, and suddenly its a much easier night. ive seen it happen at our place, ive seen it happen at a takeover in leeds, ive seen it happen on a hen-do-shaped meet that very nearly went sideways before someone produced a wand from a tote bag and saved the night. is this a real pattern or am i just making it mean something. the toy is loud, its not subtle, its definitely not insta-friendly, and yet it seems to be the one piece of kit that absolutely everybody trusts. ive got a doxy 3 at home and im starting to think i should genuinely bring it to meets even though it doesnt fit my "discreet small kit" rule. other long term couples — is the wand actually doing something the smaller toys cant, or is it just that its loud and obvious so it announces "ok were having fun now". and is the doxy worth it over the older hitachi style or are we splitting hairs