is there a polite way to bring out a toy mid-play with another couple or does it always feel like youre interrupting something

so this is a small thing but its been bugging me. partner and i, mid 30s and early 40s, on the scene in bristol about 3 yrs. weve had loads of really nice meets where the moment is going well, im close-ish but not there, and i KNOW if i just had my little bullet in my bag id be sorted. and yet i never quite know how to reach for it without it feeling like im saying "this isnt working". last meet was a lovely couple at theirs and the bloke was great with my partner and the lady was lovely with me but i needed a bit more direct stim than i was getting and instead of just grabbing the toy out of my overnight bag i sort of soldiered on and faked the finish and came home cross with myself bc i had the thing 6 feet away in a bag. i think part of it is the home version of this is so easy. you reach over, you grab the wand, you get on with it. but with another couple in the room theres this weird "are we still doing penetrative thing, are we doing oral thing, is it rude to introduce a third object". my partner doesnt care obviously, hes seen me with toys a thousand times, but the etiquette with the other couple is what im fuzzy on. do you ask. do you just get up and get it. do you bring it out at the start so its already on the bedside and not a sudden production. is there a way to do it that doesnt feel like a quiet review of the other persons performance. ladies who have a regular toy in your kit, how do you handle the moment of bringing it out without the room going still