"is your husband bi or just open" — the question we keep getting... why is this the most loaded question in the LS rn. husband is bi, has been since well before me, plays with men and women happily. every couple we vet asks this in the first 3 messages and then the answer "yes he's bi" causes about half to ghost. the other half then ask the follow up "but is he safe" which is its own can of worms. is this a generational thing, a UK thing, a particular-scene thing... or are we just unlucky with the algorithm pushing us toward the wrong crowd