left the lds church 6 yrs ago and ended up in the lifestyle, the journey is wilder than i can say to anyone in my old life

so im 36, husband is 39, we live in calgary now, both raised mormon in alberta, both went on missions in our 20s (mine was in scotland funnily enough, his was in chile), both married in the temple at 23 the way you do. we resigned our membership 6 yrs ago after a long deconstruction we did together over about 3 yrs. weve been on the scene now around 2 and a half yrs, mostly couples meets in calgary and a couple of weekends down to clubs in the kootenays area. the whiplash from mormon temple marriage to swinger marriage in less than a decade is genuinely something. like 8 yrs ago i was wearing garments under all my clothes, no caffeine, no alcohol, fully closeted about every doubt i had, doing the calling my bishop assigned me. now im in a hotel room in nelson bc on a long weekend with another couple wed met thru a club night. and the strange thing is i dont feel like a different person. i feel like the SAME person who finally got allowed to have a body and a brain and a marriage of her own. but the mormon family of origin would not recognise this version of me even slightly. my mum still doesnt know we left the church properly, she thinks we're "less active." i cant imagine ever telling her the rest. anyone else from a mormon background on the scene. how did you handle the parents thing. how did you handle the speed of your own becoming. and how did you build a sex life from scratch at 30 when most of the world had been having one since 19...