Married 30 years, in the LS 18 months, and every couple we meet assumes we have seen it all

unexpected problem to have but here we are. me 53, dh 55, married just over 30 yrs, in the lifestyle only since late 2024. so we're older but were also new. and the gap between how ppl perceive us and how experienced we actually are is starting to get awkward. heres what keeps happening. we match w couples online, they see our marriage length and our ages and they form a picture of us — "experienced older couple, must have been in this scene for decades, theyll teach us things". we get to drinks, the convo starts, and within about 20 mins they realise we're basically as new to this as they are or sometimes newer. and then theres this little energy shift, like the picture they had of us deflates a bit and we have to do the work of being something other than what they expected. a few times its been totally fine, couples laughed it off and we ended up bonding over both being noobs at our respective ages. a few times tho weve clocked actual disappointment, and one couple basically said "oh we thought you'd have more experience to bring", which... ok. so my question is whether we should be more upfront in profiles and convos about being new despite being older. our bio currently says "in the LS since 2024" but somehow ppl read 30 yrs of marriage and skip over that bit. i dont want to put NEW! flashing on our page bc thats weird and also a little defeatist. but we're also tired of starting from a position of having to manage other ppls assumptions. how do you communicate "older couple, late starters, please calibrate your expectations" without making it the whole personality of the profile.