melbourne LS overwhelm, too much choice paralysing us

couple in melbourne mid 30s, been in the LS for about a year now and we're drowning in options... every weekend theres something on, multiple clubs, parties, meetups. our app inboxes are constant. but we keep not actually meeting people because we cant decide which thing to commit to and we second guess every choice. how do people who live in big scene cities actually filter and commit instead of endlessly browsing