MMF private vs club, which one for first proper experience... we're about to do our first MMF with a bi single fella from a meet group in melbourne, and we're torn between booking a hotel and doing it private or going to a club night where there's other action around. husband says club takes pressure off cos you can take breaks and people-watch, single guy says private is better for the kind of slow build he wants, im stuck in the middle. for those who've done both as the M-bi experience, which felt safer for the curious husband to actually explore without the watching-eyes thing