most hotwife couples have a "phone-down" rule during her dates... ours fights, does yours hold

M43 / F41, hotwife dynamic 3.5 yrs, weve been around enough hotwife forums and meetups to know most couples have some version of a "phone-down rule" where during her actual date with a bull, communication is minimal or zero. and i thought we had one too. turns out we kind of dont and its causing tension. the rule we set was, no texting between us during play, only emergency. simple. but in practice, every single date, ill text her around hour 2 just to "check in" and shell text back, and then sometimes we text a couple more times, and by the end ive basically been a presence in the room without being in the room. and i can tell it pulls her out of the experience. last time she said "babe i think i need you to actually not text". and she's right. but also the not-texting is hard for me. i sit at home in the silence and the urge to send "hope youre having fun" is so strong. its not jealousy its more like wanting to be acknowledged in the night somehow. is this a common struggle for hotwife husbands. how strict is your couples phone-down rule and how do you actually enforce it on yourself when the urge to text is real. do you do something specific with your hands or your time during her dates to fill the space. and is the husbands "i need to be acknowledged during the night" thing a phase or is it permanent