my partner doesnt want to debrief and i NEED to debrief. how do you handle the asymmetry

so weve been LS about 3 years now n it took me a while to admit this but theres a real mismatch between us. after a meet i need to talk about it. like i need it. i need to unpack, share, hear his side, all of it. and he just... doesnt. for him the meet is the thing n then the meets over n he wants to go back to normal life. and ive been trying to force him into my debrief style n hes been trying to skip it n we end up irritated w each other on sundays. how do couples handle this kind of communication asymmetry? do you find a middle ground or does someone have to compromise more? feeling stuck...