my partners andropause and the slow-down... how do other women cope

hes 61, im 56. weve been in the LS 12 yrs and the last 2 hes really slowed. used to be the most reliable man i knew, now its hit and miss. hes seen a dr, T is low-normal, hes on a small dose of replacement but its not the same. the issue isnt the LS per se, its that he gets in his head abt it, esp at clubs. avoiding mfm now, mostly soft swap. im fine w less play tbh but i can see him losing confidence and it makes me sad. how do other couples handle this... is it just an accept-and-adapt thing