NYE at a couples club in manchester vs my sisters dinner party... we always pick the club and i feel guilty

every year my sister hosts this lovely dinner in didsbury, full sit down, place names, the works. and every year we either lie about being ill or invent some work emergency because we're heading to a couples-only NYE party at a club. and every year i feel like absolute garbage about it on jan 1st. don't get me wrong, the night itself is incredible, we have the best time, but the lying to my sister is starting to eat at me. she keeps saying things like "you always miss it" with that hurt voice. anyone else navigated this? do you alternate years? bite the bullet and do dinner? we're mid 40s, no kids, the lifestyle is genuinely a big part of our marriage but so is family...