our ls dinner parties have become Too precise & i think we're losing ppl

right so me n the wife are food ppl, she trained at ballymaloe, im a sommelier, n our ls dinner parties have become a Bit of a thing in the cork scene... 6 ppl, 5 courses, wine pairings, the whole thing... lovely but i realised at the last one a couple were visibly stressed abt which fork n which glass n it kinda killed the mood... my wife thinks the precision IS the foreplay, the build, the anticipation... im starting to think we're scaring off the more relaxed couples n building a vibe that's more michelin than playful... how do other foodie ls couples balance the showmanship w making ppl feel welcome enough to actually let go later... bc the food matters but the play matters more, n right now we're prioritising the wrong one i think