parallel poly vs garden party — which actually fits the swinger lifestyle better

ok so ive been reading way too much polyam theory lately (started bc a friend of ours opened up after 20 yrs marriage and was lost) and the structure terminology is actually really useful but im trying to map it onto how we actually live. we're LS, soft swap moving towards full, F36 M39, played with maybe 9 couples over 3 years. some we see at parties and wave, some weve become genuine friends with and grab dinner with twice a year. one couple we play with every couple months for like 18 months now. so where does that sit on the parallel-to-KTP spectrum if im honest. i guess in poly language it's "garden party" — we know our partners other partners by name and face, we're friendly, but we don't live in each others houses or do thanksgiving together. but the typical swinger meet feels even more parallel than that — you play and you go home and you might not see them again for months. parallel poly people don't talk about each others partners and most of the LS couples i know don't talk much about other couples theyve played with either. so my question is. is the natural shape of the LS just parallel ENM with extra steps. or is what we do — bumping into the same 30 people at clubs, becoming actual friends with some — already more like garden party. and is anyone running an actual KTP setup but with hookup partners not romantic ones. that seems like a contradiction but maybe its not. genuinely fascinated by this btw not just being annoying with terminology.