plus size couple, 2 yrs in, still no regular play partners, want ur honest read

im a 36yo wife, dh is 39, both of us are plus size (im around a 18, hes about 290). we've been actively in the scene for just over 2 yrs, attended like 12 events, dozens of online matches, and the truth is we have zero regulars. lots of polite chats, a handful of meets, one connection that lasted 3 plays then ghosted. it feels patterned at this point not random. i know body bias exists in the LS like everywhere else but i wanted to ask plus folks directly... is this just our experience because of where we live (mid sized city, not a big scene) or is the entire lifestyle harder for bigger couples and we should adjust expectations. and for those who DID find regulars, what actually shifted... was it geography, was it specific events, was it leaning into a niche, was it accepting smaller connection pool but better quality. dont sugar coat it