polish wife in dublin and the assumptions other couples make about her are doing my head in

so the wife moved over from krakow in her early 20s, weve been together 11 years now, married 6, both in our mid 30s living in d8. been in the irish LS scene about two years on and off. heres the thing thats wearing on us. the projections. like before they've even said hello properly, couples have decided what she is. either she's the "submissive eastern european trophy wife" (which is laughable if you know her, she runs a team of 14 ppl at work) or she's "wild because polish girls are wild" which is also nonsense, or she's the "catholic guilt one" which she hasnt been near a church since she was 17. its like the country of origin gives them a starter pack of assumptions and they walk in already half a conversation ahead of where we actually are. the bit that makes me angry isnt even the assumptions, its that we have to spend the first 20 mins of every new connection actively dismantling whichever flavour they came in with before we can have a real chat. shes patient about it, i am running out of patience tbh. other eastern european / polish women in the LS, do you just accept this is part of the deal in the western european scene or have you found a way to short circuit it.