Pre-drink before the club or wait til youre inside, whats actually the move practical q from a nervous noob. first club night next friday, were driving 40 mins to get there which means an uber both ways. our argument all week has been about whether to have a drink at home before the uber or wait til we're at the venue. her case is: a glass of wine at home takes the edge off the nerves so we're not white-knuckling the uber ride, plus the drinks at the club are reportedly £14 each so theres a budget angle too lol. my case is: i dont want to walk in already half loose and miss the first impression / make a mistake / look like the couple that pre-loaded. plus i feel like the slow build of having a drink at the bar IS part of arriving properly. you sit, you sip, you adjust. shes 32 im 35, weve been to like normal clubs and bars our whole adult lives obviously but a sex club is a different animal and i dont actually know if the unspoken rule is "arrive sober and stay-ish sober" or "have a glass of dutch courage on the way". also and this is the bigger q honestly — how much is too much? bc i can see myself trying to chase the nerves down with more drinks once we're in and then becoming the sloppy guy. i dont wanna be the sloppy guy. how do people pace themselves on a first night when literally every part of you is screaming for a drink.