pregnant 19 weeks and the club party in Brooklyn is in two weeks do we go or not

I'm 19 weeks. The party is the 14th, our regular crew rents a loft in Bushwick, it's been a thing for almost three years. OB said sex is fine, dancing is fine, 'just don't fall over and don't drink'. Cool. But she also said it with that smile like she didn't fully know what kind of party I was actually asking about. I didn't spell it out. The fluorescent in her office was buzzing the whole time, weirdly distracting. [F34] me, [M37] him, married six years, this is our second baby. Lifestyle two and a half years, mostly soft swap, sometimes more, no full strangers, always people we've met twice before. Crew of about 14, two of the women in the crew already know I'm pregnant because we work together at the same hospital, they're ICU nurses. The question is mostly about how it'll feel. I'm showing. Not huge but showing. My husband is being weirdly protective which I appreciate but also drives me a little nuts. He keeps saying 'if you're not 100 percent we don't go' and that's sweet but it puts the whole decision on me. The kid woke up four times last night btw. So I'm writing this at 6am on the kitchen floor with cold coffee. Anyone been pregnant and gone to a play party. What was it actually like. Not the OB version. The real version.