queer-friendly clubs in the UK/AU/IE, where do you actually go

collective wisdom please. me and my wife (im pan, shes bi) are doing a bit of travel over the next year, london, manchester, dublin, sydney, melbourne, possibly auckland. wed love to find actually queer-friendly LS/play spaces in each city not just the big mainstream couples clubs. when i google its all the same handful of names and the reviews never mention if BiM is welcome or if women can play with women without it being a peep show for the husbands. what venues have you been to that you genuinely felt comfortable in as a queer couple. doesnt have to be perfect, just not actively hostile. cheers in advance