quick rinse vs full shower between partners same night — whats the actual norm

lol this is gonna sound like such a basic q but its been on my mind. we did a hotel party last sat, 3 couples, 1 single F, played in 2 separate rooms with diff partners over abt 4 hrs. between partner switches i kept ducking into the bathroom for like a 90sec rinse with the handheld and a quick wipe, then back. mid party dh whispered "u dont have to shower every time lol" and i was like... do other ppl not? F35 H37 abt 1 yr in. some ppl seemed to just wipe with a wet washcloth or use a wipe. one woman went full shower including hair drying once. i feel like im constantly disappearing. whats normal. is the 90sec rinse a respect thing or am i overdoing it. and is there any actual hygiene reason to do MORE than that between partners