secular jewish couple, mum's friday night dinner and saturday night at a london club in the same weekend, the whiplash is doing my head in

right so im a north west london jewish woman, late 30s, husband is also jewish from manchester originally, mid 40s, neither of us are religious in any serious way but we both come from properly traditional families. friday night dinner at my mums every other week without fail, kiddush, shabbos candles, my mum lighting them with her grandmothers candlesticks, all of it. then on saturday night maybe once a month we're at a london club or a hotel meet. the whiplash of the weekend is the thing nobody warns you about. friday i'm sitting at my mums table singing the same songs we've sung my whole life with my niece on my lap, and saturday im in a corset and heels in a room with another couple. both of those things are me. neither of them feels fake. but the 22 hours between them sometimes feels like a costume change so dramatic i lose the thread of who i am. my husband is fine with it. hes very compartmentalised about everything in his life, hes a senior accountant, he can be 4 different ppl in a day and shake it off. i cant. i find myself on saturday afternoon sitting in our kitchen weirdly somber bc im about to do the switch and my body is bracing for it. then by sunday morning im back to lighting a havdalah candle (yes we still do havdalah, ask me later) and im fine. its just the saturday afternoon transition that gets me. other jewish couples on the scene, secular or otherwise — how do you do the friday/saturday split. do you not play on weekends you've done dinner. do you just power thru. is there a trick to the costume change i havent figured out...