sex with my own partner after a play night, is yours better or weird?

genuine curiosity here. after a swap night we get home and almost always end up at it again, just the two of us, before sleep. and honestly it's some of the best sex we have all month. like we're hungrier for each other after seeing each other with other people. but i was chatting to a mate (also in the lifestyle) and she said for them it goes the opposite way, they're both too touched out to even cuddle for a couple of days. which camp are you in? is one healthier than the other? we've been doing this about a year