shes the breadwinner and the ls optics are doing weird things to me

my wife earns nearly double what i do, has done for years. fine with it. proud of her. but in the ls suddenly i feel it. when shes paying for the hotel suite when shes the one talking to the staff at the club when she books the dinner with the other couple... i feel like her accessory. and i can tell some couples we meet read it that way too. one bloke literally said something about me being lucky. how do you sit with this