solo dating in the lifestyle without ever wanting to "merge" into someone's couple is it actually possible to be a long term solo woman in the LS without people constantly trying to slot you into a couple or a triad. i've been solo by choice in brighton for nearly five years now, not lonely, not searching, genuinely happy. but every other meet someone implies that if i just found the right couple i'd "settle". i don't want to settle into anything i like my flat and my own bed thanks. how do you communicate this without sounding defensive or like you're protesting too much...