sunday morning debrief, do you actually do it?

ok so we had our second ever play night on saturday with a couple from manchester, got home about 3am, slept like the dead. woke up sunday and i kind of wanted to talk about it over coffee but my husband (he's 41, i'm 38) just wanted to scroll his phone and not engage... is that normal? i feel like we need a proper debrief, what worked, what didn't, did we feel weird at any point. but pushing him to talk felt naggy. how do you lot handle the morning after, do you set a time? do you just let it come up naturally? cheers in advance